There are a number of theories explaining what creates a happy relationship and how to have a happier and healthier marriage. You don’t have to look for famous quotes from authors or actors or scientists.
We have gathered that list for you and here are some of the best bits of advice.
21 Rules Every Marriage Should Follow
Find the Good
“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” ~ Fawn Weaver
It is easy to overlook the little annoyances in your partner when you are focusing on the good qualities that made you attracted to them in the first place. Stay focused on the good.
Find Your Happy
“Marriage doesn’t make you happy–you make your marriage happy.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Do something on a daily basis that makes you happy and your relationship will feel the benefits. You cannot be in a happy relationship if you are not happy with yourself.
Forgive the Imperfections
“A successful marriage isn’t the union of two perfect people. It’s that of two imperfect people who have learned the value of forgiveness and grace.” ~ Darlene Schacht
Forgiveness is an incredibly important part of a relationship. Holding on to things that make you angry will keep you in a constant negative space and prevent you from being the best you can be.
It Begins With You
“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” ~ Barnett R. Brickner
Trying to change your partner will only backfire so focus on your contribution instead. Take on only what you can control.
Make Your Marriage a Priority
“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It is the way you love your partner every day.” ~ Barbara De Angelis
Stop looking at marriage as a thing and start thinking of it as a part of you. Take care of it, nurture it and let it grow and possibly expand into a family.
Express Your Love Daily
“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.” ~ Orlando Battista
Be open with your expressions of love.
Savor The Good
“Marriage is like a fine wine, if tended properly, it just gets better with age.” ~ Unknown
Appreciate and enjoying the good in your relationship will attract more good things and your relationship will flourish, growing stronger and better.
Make Self-Care A Priority
“One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.” ~ Stormie Omartian
You can’t take care of your relationships if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Make it a priority.
Learn From The Past And Dream Of The Future
“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.” ~ Diane Frolov
Find the lessons from the past and use them to help you shape your future.
Learn Something New Every Day
“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” ~ Pearl Buck
Learn to love learning. Learning is the key to growth and evolution. And growth is the key to strong relationships.
Live In The Now
“Love like there’s no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.” ~ Max Lucado
Stay focused on what really matters and don’t let life’s distractions keep you from living in the moment.
Celebrate The Best Of Each Other
“In marriage, when we honor and celebrate each other, we’re freed up to be the best people we can be.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Make every day a celebration of the good in your relationship and in each other.
Be Kind And Generous
“A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” ~ Diane Sawyer
Do something special every day, even if it is the same thing. Leave a little love note, brew a surprise fresh cup of coffee or a simple phone call just to say hi, will go a long way in showing that you care for your partner.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
“Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.” ~ Chinese Proverb
Make sure you do not hide your love. There are often times what and how you do a particular thing that says more than expressing your love just with words.
Invest Your Time
“The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.” ~ Amy Grant
Nothing takes the place of spending time on the relationships that matter most.
Give a Free Pass
“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.” ~ J & G Murphy
There are bound to be things that will annoy you about your partner. Make a commitment to accept them or let them go.
It’s The Little Things
“It’s the little things that keep us together. Those little things will make me love you forever.” ~ Sonia Schaad
Love can be in the great grestures that we do, but the love can be most felt by all the little things.
“Lean on each other’s strengths. Forgive each other’s weaknesses.” ~ Unknown
It is easy to be in a relationship when things are going well but it’s the tough times that strengthens the bond. Remember to be there, be supportive and ask for help when you need it.
“A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you don’t go and buy a new house, you change the lightbulb.” ~ Unknown
Making sure your relationship gets a regular care. It becomes more costly if you wait too long.
“If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.” ~ Unknown
Fostering your creative, thinking mind will keep you happy and thriving in your relationships.
“Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses.” ~ Dr. James Dobson
It’s simple really, you have to be in willing to go through the valleys as much as you are willing to go through the peaks. Put yourself all in and stay in it for the long haul.