The Language Narcissists Use To Manipulate and Traumatize Their Victims

Narcissists are those loving, charismatic admirers that admire nothing but themselves. How many people have fallen on their knees in front of these ‘charming’ people?

Narcissists can make you feel adored, loved like you are at the top of the world, when in a matter of fact, you are their toy and nothing else. You are a slave to their big and manipulative ego.

You fall done and are nothing but another victim in their path. You get emotionally helpless, worthless, crushed in never ending pain. You are left alone, left traumatized, without any escape or solution.

These manipulative creatures are like vampires that soak your blood and leave a scar for a lifetime.  Narcissists seem to play mind games using a language which only they can understand. This is how to recognize their hidden manipulative language.

The Soft Abuse

This happens at the beginning of narcissist relationship with the victim. When the victim still has not revealed their true face. The narcissist will attack the victim with soft words such as “You can trust me”.

They will be happy to gain your confidence and trust. You serve them all of your flaws, difficulties, happy moments, past relationship, anything. Once you reveal the true version of yourself to you, they will use it to provoke and attack you later down the road.

The Myth of Eternal Love

They will swear on eternal love. They will shower you with thousands of compliments and sweet words such as “You are the best thing that has ever happened to me” or “Our love is special” or even “I’ll love you until the end of my life”.

These are the words that will melt your heart or break it later… Once you are convinced of their ‘love’, they become more excited to follow with their manipulative game.

The Confusion Game

Narcissists never say what they mean. They never mean what they say. It is rather simply yet complicated.

A narcissist does not like to be criticized, ever. Thus, they will confuse the victim with “I never said that” or “That was not what I meant”.

Once you get confused about their true words and intentions and have no clue what to say or do, narcissists will use it to gain the power; their word will be the last.

Your Secrets, Their Weapon against You

Let’s take a step back, starting from the beginning. Do you remember that initial phase when the victim opens themselves up to the narcissists? Now is the time for them to throw everything in your face without mercy.

Narcissists will use your insecurities and past scars that you confided in them against you. They live for that. They will use all of the information that you provided to hurt you.

In other words, they have no empathy and are not bothered by your feelings.

The Hidden Art of Compliments

Nobody can make you feel so great as narcissists can. Their compliments and praises will bring you to the moon and back. However, they are false, abusive and nothing but a big lie and deceit.

“I like your outfit tonight, but you were wonderful yesterday”. Not even close to honesty. They criticize you using a soft voice. And they do it for their own purposes.

The Mirror Effect

When a narcissist does something wrong, they will blame you. It is easier that way. “Stop psychoanalyzing me”, “You are ridiculous” are some of the words that can be heard from a narcissist.

In the end, you will find yourself as you are the one who did something wrong when you are not.


Narcissists are ready to bring their victim to the point of insanity. You will start to question your own choices in life. They automatically become your idel and you are the one seeking approval from them as they know everything.

Once they gain their power over you, they will begin with their accusations “You are crazy” or “You are making that up”.

In the end, remember that narcissists can get loud or quiet using their language; all in all, they will not think twice to do everything to achieve their goals.

Narcissists are real psychopaths; their behavior can lead you to anxiety, depression and even suicide in some cases.

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