While it might be true that women love hard and leave themselves vulnerable when in a relationship, they also know their self-worth.
Thus, when a woman realizes that she is only getting hurt in a relationship, she will decide to leave, and you can bet that she won’t come back.
The novel Paper Towns has a quote that says: “It is so hard to leave – until you leave. And then it is the easiest thing in the world.”
When you mistreat a woman, you can expect that she will be decisive enough to know what she deserves and if she chooses to leave, don’t expect for her to change her mind. So, if you are in a relationship with a good woman who means everything to you, treat her right and she will show you just how much you mean to her in return.
On the other hand, she can decide to move on and not turn back. To provide clarity for this, here are some thoughts that go through a woman’s head when she decides to leave for good.
5 Thoughts a Woman Has When She Leaves For Good
There’s No Reason for Her to Stay
When a woman is done doing everything she can to make a relationship work that has been slowly crippling and hurting her, she will eventually realize that there is no reason or future in the relationship for her to stay in. if there are children in the picture, it might make the final decision a bit more difficult.
But, when a woman has exhausted all of her efforts, especially since realizing it is a one-way relationship, she will reach a stage where leaving is not her best choice, but it is her only option. “Your wife/partner is not your property. She does not owe you her soul. You earn it.”
A good woman will not stay and be trampled on. She will stay for the love and care from her significant other unless or until she reaches a point where she will lose herself in the process. If that is the case, don’t be surprised if she no longer finds a reason to stay and leaves.
She’s Been Alone for Too Long
A real relationship is not just a label. For it to be a functioning and a healthy one, both parties involved must be physically and mentally present within the relationship.
If a partner is rarely there for the woman, how can she say that what she has with the person is a relationship? Marriage counselor Justin Schanfarber breaks it down to his readers.
He said “women leave for many reasons, but there’s one reason in particular that haunts me, one that I want men to understand: Women leave because their man is not present. He’s working, golfing, gaming, watching TV, fishing… the list is long.
These aren’t bad men. They’re good fathers. They support their family. They’re nice, likable. But they take their wife for granted. They’re not present.”
This isn’t to suggest that men shouldn’t have hobbies and interests outside of the relationship, because they definitely should. The point here is that a woman doesn’t need her partner to be constantly watching over her or call her every two minutes.
She needs someone that she can turn to and confide in, someone to support her especially when she needs it the most. If she is being anchored or weighted down instead of being uplifted, she’ll eventually call it quits by letting herself go in order for her to move on and be the best version of herself.
After all, women are courageous in that way.
She’s No Longer Loved
Oscar Wilde once said, “Women are made to be loved, not understood.” Though women are sometimes difficult to understand, and most men will agree with this, loving them is the greatest thing they need.
When you do so, they will reciprocate that and show you just how much they value that and how much they love you back.This is not to say that all women are faithful when loved by good men, because honestly, some of them fail to see what their partner is and what they offer when they love their woman genuinely.
But, a faithful woman who cherishes a healthy relationship will love and care for her significant other when treated right. Otherwise, she will turn around and leave.
Mark Groves has some advice for you to love your woman before she leaves you. He said: “We don’t see just how important she is, till she no longer is…with us. We don’t see how much love actually matters to us because we’re too busy watching the game.
Our needs matter too, but we have to love her always, not just when we’re about to lose her. Not just till we get her back. Not just in the moments we think matter, because all moments matter.”
She’s Done Being Taken for Granted
When a woman, or any person for that matter, is always giving, but never being on the receiving end, no one can expect her to live that way for the rest of her life. She is being drained and she has nothing left to give for her partner, let alone herself as she needs the most care and affection.
When this happens, with everything that she has left, she will leave. This gives her the opportunity to break loose from what has been draining her and it also gives her a chance to rebuild herself and grow.
When the idea for leaving lights up in a woman and leaving far outweighs staying, then the decision is already made. This one quote reads: “men are quicker to leave, but usually always return.
Women take longer to think if they should leave, but if they leave, they never return.”
She Knows She Deserves Better
The biggest advantage a woman has when it comes to a relationship is knowing her self-worth, and when she is not getting the correct treatment she deserves, she will realize that to and move on.
They also say that the key to make a relationship work effectively is communication. So, what happens when a woman communications what she needs, but her needs are not satisfied?
Take this story from Mark Groves when his then-girlfriend expressed some things she needed him to do better and he responded with “If it is so bad, why don’t you leave? You have it good.”
When Mark told his father about the conversation, his father said “Wow Mark, she is telling you how to love her.” That made Mark sick to his stomach and he realized that he isn’t on the right way when it comes to loving a partner.
So, if you are in the same or similar situation as Mark, that it from his experience that when a woman honestly communicates her needs to you, it is not to annoy you, but she is offering her view on making the relationship better for both parties.
If you are currently in a relationship that made you realize that your woman deserves to be treated in the best way possible and that you do not want to lose her, let her know by showing her how you truly feel about her and how much she means to you.
If not, do not be surprised if suddenly she decides to leave because she doesn’t want to be in a relationship that will end up only hurting her. When that happens, know that she will not turn back.